“Joy is love exalted; peace is love in repose; long-suffering is love enduring; gentleness is love in society; goodness is love in action; faith is love on the battlefield; meekness is love in school; and temperance is love in training.” – D. L. Moody
by Matt Black
The year was 1974. It was my birthday—May 22nd. My parents had no ultrasound done, so they had no idea if they were going to have a boy or a girl. What a joy it was when my sister was born. My dad had been wanting a girl after his first six sons. Number seven was a girl. But wait a minute! There was another surprise. Not only did he get his girl. He got a bonus. He got me.
My twin sister and I were 2.5 months premature. We were born at St. Francis Hospital in Blue Island Illinois. At the age of an hour old we took a ride in a helocopter and were airlifted to Loyola University Medical Center where the doctors saved our lives. We had some serious problems. I would need heart surgery. They would need to wait until I was almost three years old, but eventually I had open heart surgery.
My parents say I’m almost normal, but I’m not sure that my wife would agree!!
We are talking about loving as Christ loved this morning, and I believe we all need something more than surgery this morning. We need a spiritual heart transplant. We need the heart of Jesus Christ.
We are looking at what love is. And we cannot know love unless we know Christ and God for God is love. God so loved the world that he gave… (John 3:16). Love is not like a doormat or a dictator, but is a heroic self-sacrificing act that always puts others first. Husbands are told to love their wives “as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). Self-sacrifice is the ultimate definition of love.
Five Minutes to Live
Someone has said that if we discovered that we had only five minutes left to say all we wanted to say, every telephone booth would be occupied by people calling other people to stammer that they loved them. Selfless love is our priority.
The Greatest Thing in the World
When Paul named the greatest things in this world and the next, he said, “the greatest of these is love.” Love is the greatest thing. It is that one thing that makes us most like God. “God is love.” To love is to be like God.
Love is not an option:
- Husbands are to love their wives.
- Wives are to love their husbands.
- Believers are to love God.
- Believers are to love their enemies.
- Believers are to love their neighbors.
- Believers are to love one another.
Love is About Growing in Christ
Paul is focusing specifically on Christians as they function in the Body of Christ. 1 Cor. 12-13 are all about spiritual gifts, and our function in the Body of Christ. And so love is the goal of our Christian growth. Paul presents love as it relates to growing and changing in Christ.
WHAT LOVE IS…
1. Love is patient.
Love gives people time to grow.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if God changed our character into Christlikeness overnight? Wow! That would be amazing. But He has chosen to do it over time.
The context of 1 Corinthians 12 and 13 is spiritual gifts and growing to be like Christ. That takes time doesn’t it.
It’s no surprise that Paul’s first Love is patient. Have you ever prayed for patience? It means to “suffer long.” It has the idea of having a “long fuse” or to be “long-tempered.” It is the exact opposite of our expression “short-fused.”
If you’re patient, you’re slow to anger, you endure personal wrongs with gentleness, without retaliation. You bear with others’ imperfections, faults, and differences. You give them time to change, room to make mistakes without coming down hard on them.
Ability to be Inconvenienced
John MacArthur said it this way: “Love’s patience is the ability to be inconvenienced or taken advantage of by a person over and over again and yet not be upset or angry.”
How do you act when you’ve been inconvenienced or wronged? We like to say we need to have “thick skin and a big heart.” That’s patience. Love is big-hearted, giving people room to grow and change.
Patience waits for a godly outcome. Patience is how love reacts in order to bring peace of Christ to a negative situation. When you don’t get what you want, how do you react? A lack of patience will turn your home into a war zone. Patience waits and refuses to give in to sinful anger.
A Refusal to Retaliate
Chrysostom, the early church Father, said, “It is a word which is used of the man who is wronged and who has it easily in his power to avenge himself but will never do it.” Patience never retaliates.
Understand that patience is not just “white-knuckling” your emotions in order to hold back the rage or storm that really wants to come out. No, patience is joyfully submitting to Christ for the good of another person. Jesus submitted to death on a cross, so we are to joyfully submit to Christ knowing the outcome will be good.
Patience is Not Indifference
One must be careful to distinguish patience from indifference. Patience bears with an offense, but indifference ignores it altogether. When an offense takes place that is harmful or destructive to oneself or to others, it must not be entirely overlooked. Paul, for instance, loved the Corinthians. He patiently bore with them and worked with them slowly and carefully to edify them and honor Christ.
The Supreme Example
The supreme example of patience, of course, is God Himself. “God is love” (1 Jn. 4:8). It is God’s patient love that prevents the world from being destroyed. It is His patience and long–suffering that allows time for men to be saved (2 Pet. 3:9).
Consider our Lord as an example of perfect patience. While the Lord Jesus Christ was hanging on the cross, after He had endured all that He had endured, He said this about His killers: “Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34a). Christ could have cursed his killers on the cross, but instead he blessed them when they hurt Him. He asked His Father not to hold this against them.
Exhaust the Patience of God?
Robert Ingersoll, the well–known atheist of the last century, often would stop in the middle of his lectures against God and say, “I’ll give God five minutes to strike me dead for the things I’ve said.” He then used the fact that he was not struck dead as proof that God did not exist. Theodore Parker said of Ingersoll’s claim, “And did the gentleman think he could exhaust the patience of the eternal God in five minutes?”
2. Love is kind.
Love helps people grow.
Giving Till it Hurts
On the positive side, Christian love is kind (verse 4). Someone described kindness as “giving until it hurts.” Growing in Christ is a lot of work. No one can do it alone. That’s why we need to be kind and serve our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ.
Love has no clock. It’s not just 9-5. It’s 24-7. You have to help your brothers and sisters at 1 in the afternoon and sometimes 1 in the morning.
Paul reminds us of this Christlike attribute of kindness, because we are so prone to be neglectful of others.
Definition: To Be Useful
The word translated “kindness” here means “to be useful or profitable, to furnish what is needed.” Love puts the needs of others first. To be kind is to make life easier for the other person and to serve them from your heart. It is the same word that Jesus uses when he says, “My yoke is EASY [same Greek word for kind] and my burden is light.” Kindness, like Jesus, gets into the harness of life’s problems with the other person and does all they can to lift those burdens. That’s kindness.
Kindness takes many forms. In general, it is soft and gentle. Occasionally, however, kindness must take the form of a careful rebuke designed to bring about a good result.
WHAT LOVE IS NOT…
3. Love is not jealous.
Love isn’t jealous over others’ spiritual gifts/positions.
No Jealousy Over Gifts / Positions
A person growing in Christ isn’t going to be jealous of other people’s spiritual gifts. The word means to eagerly desire, and it is used both positively and negatively in the Bible.
Positively, it’s good to be jealous for God’s glory and the good of others, but Paul is using it negatively. The jealous person wants what others have, he wants things for himself. He is too selfish to applaud others’ success; he desires to have all the attention.
We have the temptation to flaunt our spiritual gifts and be jealous and possessive over ministries.
Jealous Over Ministries in the Church
We are prone to be possessive and jealous. I might lead music. Someone else has a gift in music. It’s easy to get jealous when I can’t use my gift every Sunday. Love is such that it is not jealous of other’s gifts getting more attention or taking our place or position in the church.
The Danger of the Insulated Church
Listen, we are all expendable. We should want others to grow in their gifts. The danger for our church is that we would become insulated.
There is a temptation to become so jealous over my ministry that I never let anyone else function as I function in the Body of Christ.
This could apply to teaching a class. If you are the only one that teaches a class, you should start training an assistant. Don’t be jealous or possessive. Let someone else teach. Train someone else to do your job in the Body of Christ.
This kind of jealous protectiveness will kill slowly kill a local church body. I’ve seen it happen. Jesus says, “I will build my church.” And he will. But there are plenty of jealous church members who are trying to kill the church by being overly protective.
Jealousy is Destructive and Dangerous
Jealousy is defined as “A strong feeling of possessiveness, often caused by the possibility that something which belongs, or ought to belong, to one is about to be taken away.” When someone is addicted to their own importance, they become jealous, and that’s dangerous.
- Jealousy is so powerful that it led Joseph’s 11 brothers to sell him into slavery and leave him for dead.
- Jealousy led King Saul to hunt down and try to kill David over and over again. Saul had a thirst to protect his own position and his own gifts.
Jealousy is destructive. James says that jealousy is often the source of quarrels and conflicts (James 4:2). James 3:16, “where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice.”
In the family, a husband might be jealous for respect, or to be treated a certain way. A person who is jealous is easily insulted. They are always wanting to be treated better. “Why can’t you treat me like… so and so treats her husband?” Or the wife says, “Why can’t you treat me like this man treats his wife?” Why can’t you be this or do this or be that?
Jealousy wants “what’s mine”
Love is not jealous for “my …rights, things, opinions, ideas, way, etc. at all cost” in the Body of Christ. Love puts others first and zealously wants them to succeed. Indeed we ought to be happy and eager to sacrifice ourselves so that others might succeed! We ought not to think of ourselves but of others!
The Cup of Jealousy Has No Bottom
The cup of jealousy has no bottom. It can never be satisfied. If you have a covetous, envious heart, then you need to rest in Christ. Only Christ can satisfy your needs.
Only when you know Christ can you be jealous in a good way. We need to be jealous for the glory of God and jealous for the good of others. Godly ambition is fine, but selfish ambition is destructive.
Sinful jealousy is nothing more than selfishness. But to jealous for God’s glory and for another’s good is a virtue. Listen we are not important. Let’s not be protective of our glory and usefulness and position. Let’s help others serve. Let’s glory in God, not in our own giftedness.
4. Love is not boastful or arrogant.
Love doesn’t boast at one’s own growth or gifts or think one is more important.
Not a Windbag!
Love is not boastful. The word for boastful (perpereuetai) could be translated to “be a wind-bag” or to “parade oneself” through your words.
I kind of think of the Macy’s day parade. A braggart is like one of those gigantic inflated balloons. Sometimes we inflate our own worth with boastful words. What windbags we can be.
Sometimes, we confuse spiritual growth with spiritual pride. There are those Christians who think they are the standard, and they boast.
As struggling Christians, we have the potential to become “wind-bags” of our own spiritual greatness. We boast too highly of ourselves; we inflate our own value.
They make themselves the gurus. If you are a spiritual leader, beware of being a spiritual windbag!
Dr. Jeff Davis, Retired Air Force Major
One of the godliest men that I know is one of the humblest. He has many attainments – he’s a graduate of the FBI Academy; a retired Air Force major; and has an earned doctorate in leadership. I got to spend some time with him last month, and as I got up early the next morning I snuck into a corner his house where I walked in on him shining my shoes. I watched him as he literally spit shined my shoes. No shoes of mine ever looked so good.
My friend Jeff never speaks of his accomplishments. He just serves in the shadows and boasts of others accomplishments.
Meaning of “Boast”
To be arrogant is to be puffed up and self-focused. It speaks of someone who has a “big head.” Love doesn’t get its head swelled, it focuses on the needs of others. Among Christians, the worst pride is spiritual pride. Wesley says that if we are possessed by love, we are “our souls are humbled to the dust”!
We all have “wind bag” attitudes from time to time. “I’ve got it all figured out.” Love never says that. Love does not brag or boast.
Have you ever been in a difficult discussion with someone, and when you were in a corner, you began to paint yourself as the most spiritual person on the planet? You say things like: “I would never do that!” That is not love. That is boasting.
Love is not Arrogant
Boasting comes from an attitude of superiority over others; It is usually combined with a feeling of contempt or disregard for another. This is why Paul continues and says, “love is not arrogant.”
This word “arrogant” (Gr. phusioo) means to inflate, blow or puff up. In the N.T. it is used figuratively of pride or self-conceit. This could be translated as follows. “Love does not put on airs.” “Love does not cherish inflated ideas of its own importance.”
A Low View of Oneself
To be like Christ in His love, means you have a very low view of yourself. To love means not to overvalue yourself by concentrating on your spiritual growth, your respect and position, your abilities and gifts.
What Makes You Special?
1 Corinthians 4:6-7, “none of you may be puffed up in favor of one against another. 7 For who sees anything different in you? What do you have that you did not receive? If then you received it, why do you boast as if you did not receive it?”
We may want to boast in men or in systems of theology. We ought not exalt the hammer, but exalt the architect!
As Paul says, 1 Cor. 3:3-7, “For while there is jealousy and strife among you, are you not of the flesh and behaving only in a human way?4 For when one says, “I follow Paul,” and another, “I follow Apollos,” are you not being merely human? 5 What then is Apollos? What is Paul? Servants through whom you believed, as the Lord assigned to each. 6 I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the growth. 7 So neither he who plants nor he who waters is anything, but only God who gives the growth.”
We are All Expendable
We are all expendable. We should not boast or be arrogant. Everything we have is a gift. Let’s not have an inflated view of our gifts or usefulness to the Body of Christ. Paul says love is not “puffed up” like that (verse 5).
You realize everything you have is a gift from God. “To whom much is given much will be required.” To love means you realize you are no better than any other sinner saved by grace. Any gift or position is from God, so we should not take glory for ourselves, but give glory to God!
5. Love is not rude.
Love act rude or unfittingly, but tries to lovingly “fit” with the rest the growing Body of Christ.
Love Does Not Needlessly Offend
The word “rude” means to act unbecomingly, and unfittingly— to act with disdain for someone else, even to the point of disgracing or embarrassing someone.
Love is not rude, but works hard at always saying or doing the appropriate or fitting thing. Love is considerate of other people and is considerate of others at all times.
No member of the body can have disdain for another member. “By this shall all people know you are my disciples, by your love, one for another” (Jn. 13:35).
We are to accommodate and be courteous to one another as Eph. 4:15-17 says, “we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, 16 from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.”
Every Member Matters
In the Body of Christ, every member matters. There is no place to offend needlessly. Love has good manners. It is courteous, polite, sensitive to the feelings of others and always uses tact. The reason we are not courteous, of course, is that we are thinking only of ourselves and not of others.
A Husband Lacking Manners
I read of a husband who was generally lacking in manners. He never opened the car door for his wife. “She doesn’t have two broken arms,” he would say. After many years of marriage, his wife died. At the funeral, as the pallbearers brought her casket out to the hearse, the husband was standing by the car door. The funeral director, who knew the husband by name, called out to him and said, “Open the door for her, will you?” He reached for the car door and then, for one second, froze. He realized that he had never opened the door for her in life; now, in her death, it would be the first, last, and only time. A lifetime of regret came crashing down around him. Love is not rude.
We Grow at Different Rates
As we grow in Christ, sometimes people grow at different rates. Don’t be rude to people who don’t have the same standards or rate of growth as you do. Don’t be rude or scolding because people are not where you are at. Be polite. Use words in loving, strategic ways that will edify each other in love. Rudeness never helped anyone grow in Christ.
6. Love is not selfish.
Love lays aside “my rights” for the good of the Body.
Paul says, Love does not insist on her own way. This has the idea of laying aside my importance and my rights for the good of others.
Selfishness is destructive, because we are a Body and we need each other. If I am a hand and I stick something in my heart, that is destructive.
Selfishness (putting my needs above others) destroys relationships because we become incapable of seeing others’ needs and desire. My consuming desire to fulfill my every need will always lead to my own self-destruction. I need relationships in the Body of Christ to grow.
Selfishness never helped anyone grow in Christ either! I understand that the inscription on a tombstone in a small English village reads,
Here lies a miser who lived for himself,
and cared for nothing but gathering wealth.
Now where he is or how fares,
nobody knows and nobody cares.
In contrast, a plain tombstone in the courtyard at St. Paul’s Cathedral in London reads:
Sacred to the memory of General Charles George Gordon,
who at all times and everywhere gave his strength to the weak,
his substance to the poor, his sympathy to the suffering,
his heart to God.
It’s Not About You!
If you are going to grow in Christ, you must realize that the Christian life is not about you! It’s all about Jesus. It’s about the community of saints, where Jesus, not you or me, is head. Jesus is our Head. Jesus is our King of kings and Lord of lords.
Growing in the Body of Christ means we need to relinquish the idea of ourselves being at the center. There are many members in the Body of Christ.
1 Cor. 12:14-20, “For the body does not consist of one member but of many. 15 If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? 18 But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as he chose. 19 If all were a single member, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts, yet one body.”
It’s not like we’re one big eyeball rolling down the road. Maybe you are a hand. It’s not like we’re one gigantic hand creeping down the street. You get the idea. That’s grotesque. That’s how ugly selfishness is.
You Can’t Do it Alone
We can’t seek our own. We need to remember we are part of a great big Body of Christ where there are many different Body parts that ought to fit together in harmony.
You can’t grow in Christ on your own. You need the whole Body.
7. Love is not irritable.
Love is not put off by the hang ups and quirks of others as they grow.
We All Have Hang-ups
Does anyone here not have hang-ups and quirks? Love realizes that each of us is unique. A foot is different from a lung. But both are needed. Because we are all so different, we can all seem really quirky to each other.
But love realizes that God makes each of us unique, and we don’t need to be irritable with each other.
If we get our focus off of Jesus our Head, we can become irritable. The idea here is that love is not easily injured or offended. Psalm 119:165 (KJV), “Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.”
Are you touchy or defensive? That is the opposite of Christlike love. There is a difference between sensitivity and touchiness. It’s important to be sensitive to the needs of others, but touchiness is self-centered and from the pit. This irritability can come across in having a pity party for yourself, or just being irritated with another person.
Love is not Moody or Touchy
Love is not touchy, or moody. Love is not hypersensitive or easily hurt. Love is not sharpened to wrath or aroused to anger. The battle cry of one who is easily irritated is-“Don’t you get it?! I am the one that matters.” This person cares for no one but self. This person is upset by anything that is said or done that infringes on their agenda, forces a schedule change, or puts a bad light on their character. Excuses for anger:
- It’s just a weakness.
- It’s just letting off steam.
- It’s just the way I am.
- It’s their fault. I’m the victim.
- It’s the only way I can get results.
- They pushed me over the line.
- I was born this way. I inherited it.
Do others have to “walk softly” around you for fear of an explosion?
8. Love is not resentful.
Love forgives and keeps no record of wrongs.
No Record of Wrongs
Love hurts. Love requires that we get so close to someone and be so vulnerable that we see each others’ flaws. That means love hurts. Everyone who loves will get hurt. We often give offenses and insults to the ones we love the most, don’t we?
Love is not resentful when those wrongs and hurts and insults come. It keeps no record of wrongs suffered (1 Corinthians 13:5). We have no “private file of personal grievances that can be consulted and nursed whenever there is possibility of some new slight. It’s stance in the presence of genuine evil precludes such accounting; for at ta very deep level, love cannot bear to be judgmental or hypocritical. Love covers a multitude of sins because all we have to do is look in the mirror and see we are all sinners. 1 Peter 4:8 — “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.”
We Know the Deep, Forgiving Love of Jesus
If you have kept a record of wrongs, it means that you have forgotten the deep, deep love of Jesus. Oh how deep is the love of Jesus, that He would keep no record of our wrongs. He buries them in the depths of the sea.
When a person puts their faith in Christ, His payment for sin on the Cross is put in our place. Banks keep records or debts. That’s the term being used here. God puts our wrongs on Jesus. There is a great exchange – our sins for His righteousness. Our debts are wiped away!
The same Greek word is used often in the New Testament to represent the pardoning act of God for those who trust in Jesus Christ. “Blessed is the man whose sin the Lord will not take into account” (Rom. 4:8). “God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against them” (2 Cor. 5:19). Once sin is placed under the blood of Christ there is no more record of it. It is blotted out, “wiped away” (Acts 3:19). In God’s heavenly record the only entry after the names of His redeemed is “righteous,” because we are counted righteous in Christ. Christ’s righteousness is placed to our credit. No other record exists.
Psalm 103:12, “As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.”
True Forgiveness: Paid in Full
As true Christians, we do not keep the records of those who sin against us, but instead we truly forgive. To forgive is an accounting term that means never to bring it up again. It is a true sign of love to forgive as Jesus told us to – seventy times seven!
If your mortgage is forgiven, the bank can no longer remind you of it; it’s paid in full! Same with your sin debt. God has forgiven it. He will never remind you of it. It’s “paid in full.”
May Take Time to Build Trust
Love forgives. Sometimes it is hard to forgive, but you know you have forgiven if you are willing not to bring the wrong up again. It may take time to build trust.
Love is not resentful. Love doesn’t “save up” wrongs to use strategically at a later time. Resentment is careful to keep books, which it reads and rereads, hoping for a chance to get even. Love keeps no books, because it has no place for resentment or grudges.
Chrysostom, the golden tongued preacher of the Fourth Century, observed that a wrong done against love is like a spark that fails into the sea and is quenched. Love quenches wrongs rather than records them.
9. Love does not rejoice in wrong-doing.
Love does not parade another person’s failures.
Because We Are All Sinners too!
Love does not rejoice in wrongdoing – when others fail. Let’s face it, when others fail, it might make us feel more spiritual or be filled with spiritual pride. Can we not see our own sins? Is our own self-importance and pride blinding us? Why would we gloat when others sin?
There is no room in love for spiritual pride or gloating when those around us fail. There is no “I’m better than them” attitude in love. Love does not gloat in spiritual pride like that. That’s hypocrisy. We are all sinners.
If someone you don’t like falls into sin, because of our tendency toward pride, we might be tempted to gloat. Loving Christians don’t gloat over sin, they grieve, because God is grieved over sin. If repentance comes, you rejoice.
Love is instead pure and is not double-faced. There is a wholesomeness and genuineness to Christian love.
Don’t Be Lazy! Work Hard to Help Your Brothers and Sisters Grow
Love cannot rejoice in iniquity because it’s sincere. It’s hard work to help people let go of sinful habits and thinking!
It is not loving to allow another person to go on in sin. Love will sensitively confront and correct precisely because it cares deeply and knows that sin destroys.
Sometimes We May Rejoice When Another Fails because We Want the Spotlight
There is this idea in the churches today that my brand of Christianity is special, or that my church or my pastor is the ideal church or pastor. Get that out of your mind. There is one church. There is one body. When other churches fail, we grieve and sorrow and remember that we are all a mess aren’t we? Jesus said, “I did not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.”
Our Focus is Not Highlighting the Sins of Others, But Building Christ’s Body
We have to tear down in order to build, but the emphasis is on the new building, not on the demolition of the old.
And so it is, that although we earnestly contend for the faith against wrongdoing, love’s distinction is not that she tracts down and points out the wrongs, but emphasizes instead that which is spiritually healthy and truthful.
The major emphasis of the Christian is not what is wrong, but what is true. Love never takes satisfaction from sin, whether our own sin or that of others.
When another brother or ministry sins through pride, we must not gloat over their failures and say, “Ha! I told you so!” That is hypocritical self-righteousness.
We do not “rejoice in wrongdoing” with a prideful self-righteousness. Instead, we want to help them and restore them.
Consider Galatians 6:1-3, “Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself.”
Restore your brother or sister in Christ quickly, but be sure you truly are restoring them. Don’t just give empty words. It may take some time with God before you can truly forgive. If you don’t deal with it, you’ll keep bringing it up.
What we are tempted to do with faults is to store them up and use them in a time of war. Instead of rejoicing in iniquity, seek to help your brothers and sisters reconcile. If they ask for forgiveness, forgive them immediately.
10. Love rejoices in spiritual growth.
Love rejoices when others walk in the truth!
Walking in the Truth
Love rejoices in the Truth. Jesus is at the center! He is the truth. Love’s emphasis is not tracking down people and telling them everything that is wrong, but rather, to encourage people to come to Christ and walk in the truth.
Love rejoices with the truth. The idea is rejoicing in spiritual victories when one is walking in the truth (Gill).
Love Rejoices in the Truth
Love rejoices with the truth. Love gets excited when it hears of spiritual victories. Love encourages by expressing joy over little evidences of growth. John, the apostle of love, wrote, “I have no greater joy than this, to hear of my children walking in the truth” (3 John 4).
Rejoicing in Changed Lives
This is why the motto of our church is “Growing and Changing in Christ”! We need to stand against the destructiveness of sin and the deceitfulness of sin, but let’s get on to the business of growing in Christ! Let’s rejoice in the power and truth of Christ in changed lives!
WHAT LOVE IS “ALWAYS”…
11. Love always protects.
Love covers the reputation of others with care and concern.
Love bears all things! The idea is that love “covers” or “protects” like a soldier throwing himself on a grenade to protect his fellow troops. Or like a police officer putting himself in the line of fire to protect his fellow man and woman. Love bears all things.
Fallen human nature has the opposite inclination. There is perverse pleasure in exposing someone’s faults and failures.
Love bears all things by protecting others from exposure, ridicule, or harm. Genuine love does not gossip or listen to gossip. Even when a sin is certain, love tries to correct it with the least possible hurt and harm to the guilty person. Love never protects sin but is anxious to protect the sinner.
Protecting from Gossip
Often tidbits of gossip come our way about members of the Body of Christ. Do you protect the reputation of God’s children? Do you “bear all things” with God’s people. Do you cover them and protect them?
Love bears with, or “covers” all things. The idea is that love protects. Paul uses the word “cherish” for this idea in Ephesians 5:28–29 — “In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church”. Husbands are to cherish their wives.
When you hit your thumb with a hammer, you feel the pain, and you do all you can to relieve it. Do you do that for your wife? Do you know when she is hurting? Do you protect her?
Love Does Not Expose the Sins of Others
Love handles the sins of others in ways that will not bring exposure or shame. Paul had in mind the concept of endurance, he meant that love bears with many offenses and does not stop loving even under the strain of difficulties imposed by others, even going so far as to love enemies (Luke 6:27). If he had in mind the concept of covering, then he may have meant that love will not seek to expose the sins of others.
A Limit to Protection
It is evident that Paul limited such endurance or protection for people’s good. For example, he instructed Timothy that “those who sin are to be rebuked publicly” (1 Tim. 5:20). Likewise, he called public attention to the strife between Euodia and Syntyche (Phil. 4:2). He commanded the Corinthians to stop tolerating the man who had his father’s wife (1 Cor. 5:1–13). Wisdom is required to know when and how to protect or to expose, and love always tends to protect.
So it is that love protects people even in their sin. God never intends His people to ultimately be hurt or condemned for their sin. We confront sin head on, not through gossip or slander or exaggeration. We want God’s people to be restored, not ridiculed.
He intends that they grow through it and put it off. A loving Christian will make sure that no brother or sister is maligned or mocked or gossiped about, but seek to protect them, and if there is sin, to help them grow and learn by their failures.
Remember a “righteous man falls seven times” and then gets up again (Prov. 24:16). We need to help our brothers and sisters get up every time they fall.
12. Love always believes the best.
Love gives people the benefit of the doubt.
Believes the Best
Love believes all things. Love “fills in the blanks” of people with good thoughts. Love thinks the best of people. Love trusts the best about people.
Remember When You Were Courting?
The idea is that love trusts and believes the best of people. You married men, remember when you first met your wife? As you got to courting her, you thought she could do no wrong. She had deficiencies then, but back then you thought they were “cute.” You loved her. You thought the best of her. She thought the best of you. You got along well, because you displayed this aspect of love.
Fill in the Unknowns with Positives
Often when we are hurt we think the worst. We fill in the blanks with negatives and accusations.
When things are going great in in any relationship all the deficiencies of your wife are forgotten, they are covered, but when things are hard, you fill in any blank spaces with further negatives. Focus on the positives of your wife. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Fill in the unknowns with positives.
Never, never, never speak ill of your wife or any other person in front of others. Speak about that person as if they were there. Constantly rehearse in your mind the things that you are thankful about for people.
13. Love is always optimistic.
Love sees God’s work in people.
Expects the Best for People
We are all a work in progress are we not? Love hopes all things. Love hopes for the best. Love fills in the blanks of life with good. It never thinks the worst, but always hopes and expects the best about a person when there is any question.
This could be translated as follows: “Love is always hopeful” or “Love hopes under all circumstances.” Love doesn’t write “hopeless” over anyone or any circumstances.
This biblical optimism grows out of faith in God, not men. Hope is the joyous anticipation of good to come. This hope in God must be woven into the practical fabric of our lives.
Hope Not Through Being Smarter
Hope is not anchored in having things your way, or manipulating people or situations because you are “smarter” than everyone. God calls the foolish things of this world to confound the wise and weak things to confound the strong (1 Cor. 1:26ff).
Hope is attached to God Himself to do what is right, good and best for all and knowing that He will give sufficient grace to handle any situation that His plan has for you. It is hope in Him that He will bring about what is good, right, fair, etc. in every one and all situations.
14. Love always perseveres with imperfect people.
Love goes beyond normal limits and boundaries.
Love “endures all things” (verse 7). Love perseveres with imperfect people. The word translated endure is a military term used of an army holding a vital position at all costs. In other words, you are your brother’s and sister’s keeper. Our armed forces leave no one behind. So it is with the Body of Christ. We persevere with each other! We leave no one behind. This could be translated as follows:
- “Love is ever patient”
- “Love endures without limit”
- “Love gives us power to endure everything”
Battles have been won because a small pocket of men refused to quit and run. It means to remain under – that is to endure or sustain a load of miseries, adversities, persecutions or provocations in faith and patience.
Eliminates Negative Attitudes
“All things” – every sort of offense, pressure, affliction, difficulty, victory, defeat etc. Love endures! It eliminates attitudes such as:
- I can’t take it anymore.
- Things have got to ease up.
- If things don’t change, I’ll crack.
Your love for God and others, energized by God within you (Phil. 2:13), is the source and strength for endurance. Only theology can change this. Knowing God and His love and care for you. How is your endurance seen in your home? at work? Etc.
Consider some biblical examples of endurance.
Job endured. Job 13:15 Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him: but I will maintain mine own ways before him.
Paul endured. 2 Tim. 2:10 Therefore I endure all things for the elect’s sakes, that they may also obtain the salvation which is in Christ Jesus with eternal glory.
Jesus Christ endured. Heb. 12:2,3 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. (3) For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.
15. Love produces eternal fruit.
Many things will pass away, but the consequences of love will never end.
A Love that Never Ends
Love never ends or fails (verse 8). Love bears eternal fruit and brings eternal rewards. Love always prospers!
When everything else passes away, love will remain.
Alomost Everything Else on Earth Fails
Mark 8:36-37, “For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul? 37 For what can a man give in return for his soul?”
We thank God for those doctors who heal our bodies. But one day we are going to die, and no doctor can prevent ultimate death. Ten out of ten people die. It’s the ultimate statistic.
What are you living for? Even the most noble things are worthless if you are not living in and for the love of God found in Jesus Christ.
Look to the Cross! There is love hanging on a tree. There is love sacrificing Himself for you and me! Turn to Christ. Let Him fill you with His love today.
God Sized Love
Let me remind you that this love is supernatural. You cannot produce this on your own. This is God-sized love. The love of God must melt down the unlovely heart in man, and beget in each of us the new creation – a new person who is patient and humble and gentle and unselfish. And there is no other way to get it. There is no mystery about it. We love others, we love everybody, we love our enemies, and more than anything else, we love our God, because He first loved us.
The Greatest of These is Love
When all the great eternal things are lined up side by side in eternity, whether it be faith or hope or love, God says the greatest of these is LOVE. That’s why Paul says in the very next verse (14:1), “Pursue love.” When we pursue love, we are growth in Christlike character.
 MacArthur, J. F., Jr. (1984). 1 Corinthians (p. 338). Chicago: Moody Press.
 Pratt, R. L., Jr. (2000). I & II Corinthians (Vol. 7, p. 230). Nashville, TN: Broadman & Holman Publishers.
 Ibid., 338.
 Pratt, ibid.
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